Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Seeking the meaning of life...

So Lucy over at Diminishing Lucy had this really great question at the end of her post today; "What would you try if you knew you could not fail?"

This put me in mind of a group of questions that I think hold the meaning to life.  I swear I think that, it's probably because I can't answer them - or maybe I'm afraid to answer them - I'm not sure which is true - maybe it's just that I'm not ready to answer them.  But I got them off this newsletter about mental health from our insurance company as I was pondering therapy to help me clarify some things - my marriage not the least of them.  I typed these 8 questions up and open the document every so often and contemplate my life.  So today I'm going to give it a shot.  Maybe if I put some answers down - it'll be easier for me to decide if that's really want I want.  I'm a better editor than writer if you know what I mean, so don't hold me too tightly to them.

1) What do you want? forget about goals for a moment - what do you REALLY want?  Peace.  Confidence.  Health.  Love.  Lust.

2) When you have the life you want, what will it look like, be like - what kind of feeling will you have around your life? joy? a sense of serenity? or confidence that you're ready for anything?  All those things; joy, a sense of serenity, and confidence that I'm ready for anything, and lots and lots of good sex.  (I'm horny, can you tell?)

3) How will you know - what will tell you when you have what you want in your life?  Try to be as specific as possible.  "I'll know when I'm doing something with passion and purpose," or "I'll know when I'm debt-free and have extra income and a nest egg for my child's college education."  I'll know when I'm not stressed all the time and running from one place to the next and worried I'm heading in the wrong direction and maybe it'll hurt a little to sit down in a certain way :)

4) What impact will living the life you want have on other areas, for example, family or close friends, or where you might be living?  I'll have richer relationships with extended family and close friends as I'll have the confidence to risk more and be more open inviting the same from them.  We'll still live here.

5) What's preventing you from getting what you want?  Fear?  Uncertainty?  Lack of specifics?

6) What resources do you currently have - and what additional resources do you need to help get what you want?  Hmmmm.  I have a good support system, that I don't use unless pushed to the wall for the most part - the hold up is all about me, I think.

7) What steps can you take this week to help you move forward with your vision?  I'm answering these questions, aren't I?

8) How will you acknowledge your progress?  Taking time to celebrate what you accomplish along the way is a critical - and often neglected - factor in success.  Building on a sense of achievement can help get you through the hard times.  And nothing begets success like success!  The health I want starts with weight loss and I got a band and I'm doing this blog with all you lovely people to help me achieve that part of my goal.  As for the rest, I have absolutely committed to being more open to the world and more honest with myself - I'm trying to truly listen to what I want, what I need to make me happy and complete and then trying to stay true to that.  No more hiding behind what I think people want me to be.

So tell me - how do you guys answer these questions?  Pick and chose - answer 1 or 4 or none at all, What do you think?


Tina said...

I will do it tomorrow-:) Good work..I like this one and your answers.

tessierose said...

Good answers, these are tough!

Amanda said...

Thank you, Thank you, Thank you for the comment left on my blog yesterday! I can not say how much this means to have support from all you girls! You are right I need to own it and then be happy that I am changing it. I am feeling much better.